Relationship Between Type 2 and Type 5

The Altruist and the Observer

Elena Gilbert
Elena Gilbert (Type 2)
Sherlock Holmes
Sherlock Holmes (Type 5)

Attraction

These two types differ in many ways, making them fairly complementary.
The Type 2 is intrigued by the Type 5’s intelligence, self-confidence, calm demeanor, and emotional detachment.
Type 5 admires Type 2’s optimism, kindness, goodness, and social ease.
Often, Type 2 initiates the relationship, seeing winning over Type 5’s attention as a challenge, making them even more determined.

Potential Challenges

Type 2 may feel hurt, frustrated, and neglected if Type 5 focuses exclusively on their mental world, ignoring Type 2.
Type 2 needs closeness, while Type 5 needs plenty of personal space. Without finding a balance, this can cause major conflicts.
Under compulsion, Type 2 can become too obsessive in seeking Type 5’s attention, frightening them away.

Resolution of Challenges

The "potential challenges" arise in an Enneagram-type couple primarily when they are not in harmony with themselves. With communication, each person's investment in the relationship, and mutual understanding, these challenges can certainly be avoided and resolved.