Relationship Between Type 2 and Type 9

The Altruist and the Peacemaker

Elena Gilbert
Elena Gilbert (Type 2)
Frodo Baggins
Frodo Baggins (Type 9)

Attraction

The Type 2 is attracted to the Type 9’s tenderness, peacefulness, humility, and tolerance.
Type 9 admires Type 2’s enthusiasm, attentiveness, energy, and affection.
Both have excellent social, interpersonal, and adaptive abilities.
Neither likes conflict or stress, and they can form a warm, harmonious, and loving relationship.

Potential Challenges

The main issue is about decision-making and authority. Both are naturally adaptable, and someone needs to take the lead. Often this falls to Type 2, but not always. Type 9 may struggle to be heard, and over time, Type 2 may become somewhat domineering, trying to control Type 9.
Type 9 may respond with stubborn passive-aggressive resistance, causing tension.

Relationship Between Two Type 3s

Two Chameleons

Jay Gatsby
Jay Gatsby (Type 3)
Mary Crawley
Mary Crawley (Type 3)

Attraction

These two Type 3s are drawn to each other by their ambition, energy, winning personalities, enthusiasm, stimulating competitiveness, self-confidence, charisma, achievements, and strong work ethic.
They can be extremely encouraging and understanding of each other, inspiring one another and forming an exceptional partnership when working toward common goals.

Potential Challenges

They risk comparing themselves too much and turning their relationship into a competition. They may neglect their relationship for the sake of their careers and ignore their true emotions.
If one partner starts to see the relationship as a hindrance to success, conflict may arise.

Resolution of Challenges

The "potential challenges" arise in an Enneagram-type couple primarily when they are not in harmony with themselves. With communication, each person's investment in the relationship, and mutual understanding, these challenges can certainly be avoided and resolved.