Relationship Between Type 4 and Type 3

The Artist and the Chameleon

Éponine
Éponine (Type 4)
Jay Gatsby
Jay Gatsby (Type 3)

Attraction

This couple can be very complementary if they manage their compulsions well.
The Type 4 is attracted to the Type 3’s self-confidence, charisma, sociability, energy, diplomacy, and winning personality.
Type 3 is attracted to Type 4’s sensitivity, emotional depth, authenticity, mystery, and romantic nature.
Type 4 can help Type 3 pay more attention to their repressed inner feelings, while Type 3 can help Type 4 become more organized and move toward achieving their dreams.

Potential Challenges

Type 4 is very sensitive, moody, and needs closeness. They may suffer if Type 3 neglects the relationship to focus on professional goals.
Type 4 might feel that Type 3 focuses too heavily on image and career, avoids feelings, and is too superficial.
Type 3 might find Type 4 too moody, needy, passive, unproductive, and inefficient.

Resolution of Challenges

The "potential challenges" arise in an Enneagram-type couple primarily when they are not in harmony with themselves. With communication, each person's investment in the relationship, and mutual understanding, these challenges can certainly be avoided and resolved.