Relationship Between Type 7 and Type 5

The Epicurean and the Observer

Phoebe Buffay
Phoebe Buffay (Type 7)
Sherlock Holmes
Sherlock Holmes (Type 5)

Attraction

This can be a complementary relationship.
The Type 5 is attracted to the Type 7’s optimism, cheerfulness, energy, sociability, and sense of fun.
Type 7 admires Type 5’s depth, knowledge, insight, calm, unconventional mindset, and independence.
Both are insatiably curious, independent, and enjoy stimulating conversations and humor.
Type 7 brings life experience and helps Type 5 with social skills, while Type 5’s private sensuality pleasantly surprises Type 7.

Potential Challenges

Type 5 may see Type 7 as too intrusive, overly social, impatient, hyperactive, superficial, and arrogant.
Type 7 may find Type 5 too inactive, analytical, withdrawn, negative, and detached.
Type 7 quickly loses interest and moves on, while Type 5 delves deeply into subjects.
They need to balance Type 5’s need for solitude and Type 7’s need for social activities.
Under stress, Type 7 seeks fun and escape, while Type 5 seeks isolation.

Resolution of Challenges

The "potential challenges" arise in an Enneagram-type couple primarily when they are not in harmony with themselves. With communication, each person's investment in the relationship, and mutual understanding, these challenges can certainly be avoided and resolved.