Relationship Between Type 5 and Type 9

The Observer and the Peacemaker

Sherlock Holmes
Sherlock Holmes (Type 5)
Jane Bennet
Jane Bennet (Type 9)

Attraction

The Type 5 is attracted to the Type 9’s tolerance, generosity, acceptance, modesty, humility, sensuality, and kindness.
Type 9 admires Type 5’s gentleness, calmness, wisdom, insight, ingenuity, and reliability.
Both value autonomy and tranquility, giving each other plenty of space. However, neither is adept at taking the initiative.
Type 9 tends to idealize their partner and longs for emotional closeness, while Type 5 may struggle with too much emotional proximity and withdraw, frustrating Type 9.

Potential Challenges

Their mutual love of autonomy and peace can result in too much distance and a lack of initiative.
Type 9’s desire for emotional merging can overwhelm Type 5, causing withdrawal and frustration, changing the course of the relationship.

Resolution of Challenges

The "potential challenges" arise in an Enneagram-type couple primarily when they are not in harmony with themselves. With communication, each person's investment in the relationship, and mutual understanding, these challenges can certainly be avoided and resolved.