Relationship Between Type 7 and Type 8

The Enthusiast and the Leader

Phoebe Buffay
Phoebe Buffay (Type 7)
Tommy Shelby
Tommy Shelby (Type 8)

Attraction

The Type 7 is attracted to the Type 8’s intensity, energy, passion, autonomy, honor, and leadership.
Type 8 is drawn to Type 7’s optimism, light-heartedness, zest for life, and playful spirit.
Both are sensual, direct, and energetic, value their freedom, and are open to new experiences.
They are independent, confident, have unconventional minds, and sometimes enjoy pushing the limits.

Potential Challenges

Both can take their lifestyles to extremes and become self-centered, insulting, and stubborn.
Type 8 needs a faithful partner to trust, while Type 7 may struggle with 8’s authority.
Type 7 may see Type 8 as too dominant, authoritarian, aggressive, impatient, insensitive, and confrontational.
Type 8 may see Type 7 as neglectful of the relationship, unreliable, and too quick to run from problems.

Resolution of Challenges

The "potential challenges" arise in an Enneagram-type couple primarily when they are not in harmony with themselves. With communication, mutual understanding, and commitment from both partners, these challenges can be prevented or resolved.