Attraction
This can be a very complementary relationship.
The Type 8 is attracted to the Type 9’s calmness, stability, gentleness, generosity, tolerance, and discretion.
Type 9 is drawn to Type 8’s energy, self-confidence, leadership, and intensity.
Type 9’s unassuming presence and affection soothe Type 8.
Type 8 likes having control and making decisions, which usually suits indecisive Type 9 well.
Type 9 tends to merge emotionally with their partner, while Type 8 can be flexible and adapt to 9’s needs.
Both are sensual, big-hearted, and enjoy a safe, peaceful haven together.
Potential Challenges
Type 8 may see Type 9 as too passive, indirect, indecisive, ineffective, boring, and stubborn.
Type 9 may see Type 8 as too demanding, domineering, intimidating, confrontational, and excessive.
When Type 9 feels pressured, they become evasive and passive-aggressive, which can enrage Type 8 further. Then Type 9 becomes even colder and more resistant.
Type 8 might ignore Type 9’s opinion when they think they’re right, frustrating Type 9 if they feel ignored.
The "potential challenges" arise in an Enneagram-type couple primarily when they are not in harmony with themselves. With communication, each person's investment in the relationship, and mutual understanding, these challenges can certainly be avoided and resolved.