Attraction
The Type 1 tends to be conventional, while the Type 4 often seeks what’s different. Yet, they can form a complementary bond if they manage their tendencies. Type 4 encourages Type 1 to loosen up, have fun, and explore feelings. Type 1 helps Type 4 become more organized and motivates them to realize their ideas.
Type 4 admires Type 1’s self-control, pragmatism, helpfulness, and desire to improve the world.
Type 1 is drawn to Type 4’s creativity, dreaminess, and quest for authenticity.
Both are idealistic and value integrity, noticing what the world lacks and supporting each other in striving toward their ideals.
Potential Challenges
Type 1 may view Type 4 as self-centered, overly sensitive, moody, withdrawn, and too caught up in their inner world.
Type 4 may see Type 1 as too critical, judgmental, closed-in, and overly conformist.
Type 4 craves intense emotional exchanges, while Type 1 tends to contain and control emotions.
Type 1 might struggle with Type 4’s need to feel “special.”
Type 4 may then feel ashamed, inferior, and rejected.
The "potential challenges" arise in an Enneagram-type couple primarily when they are not in harmony with themselves. With communication, each person's investment in the relationship, and mutual understanding, these challenges can certainly be avoided and resolved.