Attraction
The Type 3 is attracted to the Type 8’s confidence, competence, success, power, and indifference to others’ opinions.
Type 8 admires Type 3’s charisma, apparent self-confidence, adaptability, and social skills.
When comfortable, Type 8 can be very generous and attentive, which resonates with Type 3, who reciprocates.
Type 3’s flexibility helps Type 8 collaborate better with others.
Both are ambitious, determined, and energetic in pursuing goals, admiring that drive in each other.
Potential Challenges
Type 8 struggles with trust and may test Type 3’s loyalty and honesty before opening up their tender side.
Type 3 may struggle with Type 8’s need for control and, instead of confronting it, might escape into work or dishonesty, fueling Type 8’s suspicion.
Both repress their emotional centers, leading them to manipulate to meet their needs. Type 3 might see Type 8 as a resentful tyrant, while Type 8 may view Type 3 as an untrustworthy liar.
The "potential challenges" arise in an Enneagram-type couple primarily when they are not in harmony with themselves. With communication, each person's investment in the relationship, and mutual understanding, these challenges can certainly be avoided and resolved.